Facing Worthlessness and Self-hatred Together
Today we are going to face worthlessness and self-hatred together from a heart-centered place. Whether you face these things on a daily basis or if an echo of them only sneaks in from time to time there are a few things I really want you to know.
When circumstances or situations in your life seem to reaffirm your worthlessness and make your inner dialog of self-hate and doubt even louder, it is hard not to get overwhelmed by the negative emotions that keeps you locked into a loop of suffering.
I have been there so I completely understand how some external situation happens then your inner voice says, see I told you that you aren’t enough and that thought leads to another bullying thought, and then another, and before you know it you feel really small and you believe that you are somehow worthless.
I have been very upfront about surviving my childhood and my path to where I am today. The people who were suppose to love and care for me were surviving their own stories and, so being conscious and fortifying my essential truth was a much lower priority to their own survival. This meant that when hard dynamic happened in my life I started to create my own patters of survival. I too questioned my worth and I too became my own bully.
There was an internal struggle… something inside of me wanted to believe I mattered But there was so much noise outside suggested to me that I didn’t. But then this incredible thing happened, I started hear from other people that I mattered. Some of them I knew, some of them were in books I was reading, or movies I was watching. All of this seemed to interrupt my patterns of suffering and survival for the moment I could witness it.
Here is the thing about your worthiness; it’s an inside job. Nothing outside will ever be able to fill that part of who you are. So please be careful on your journey to discovering and knowing your worth, because it will never be identified by something outside of you.
So let me disrupt your patterns of survival and your inner bully by telling you that you matter. Because you absolutely do matter.
I have done a lot of inner work to find my own personal belief system around this fundamental component to our lives, called worthiness. I want to share it with you so that you can barrow the language until you find your own. You can even adopt it or parts of it if you find that it resonates with your heart.
You are a brilliant mix of divinity woven into human form. You are a completely unique expression of truth, essence of love and creation of life. Let’s break that down so you can really get it:
Expression of Truth – This means that you express the truths that are fundamental to our humanity in a way that is completely unique to you.
Essence of Love – Just like no fingerprint is the same, no expression of love is the same and only you have the power to love in the way that you do.
Creation of Life – Only you can create the life before you, there will never be another you to grace the face of the earth, and live your completely unique story into existence.
You came into this unique creation of life worthy, valuable, and significant as you are. While there is endless value to fostering these fundamental elements of your being, you do not have to earn them, because they were woven into your humanity.
Like I said before, nothing from the outside will ever be able to fill space within your being that is marked for you’re your worth, significance or value.
The person that you want to prove your worth will never be able to prove it enough for you to feel long-term relief. All of those things you force yourself to do so that you feel like you are enough will never be sufficient if you don’t know your worth from deep within your being first. Your worth, significance, and value comes from the inside out, not the outside in.
You are the only you that will ever be. You are the only person who will ever be able to fill your spot at the table of humanity. Do you realize how crazy amazing that is? It is marked solely for you and there is worth, value, and significance in the fact that you are you.
Believe me I know your human experience can get messy and in the mess of an experience you are some how less. But I want you to know that you’re your worthiness is nonnegotiable. But it is up to you to fortify it, to believe in it and to find the langue so that you can really own it.
You belong here creating the life before you.
And I am here to help you as you figure it out, to get connected to your heart and the power of your story. I will teach you everything that I have learned and that I continue to learn. You are not alone in any of it.
If you are watching this or reading this blog and have come this far please go watch or read these other videos and blogs. I really think they will offer you a helpful perspective:
But please do not make your worthiness negotiable.
It’s time for you to really own who you are.
Let me know if you have questions, I am here for you.
Subscribe to my emails and my YouTube channel, like and share the video and blog, and until next time, know I am holding a place of love for you where worthiness, significance and value are undeniable.
The Starter Kit and Hand Book are great FREE resources that can help you along the way! And they are both free to you so it’s as easy as downloading and enjoying.
If you enjoy a more hands-on approach you can always grab your copy of the Awaking to Your Story Starter Kit – 3 Tools For Returning To Your Power.
This Kit is filled with chapters to help you move through this very process. With exercise, audios, and videos you will learn three powerful tools to help you shift your point of view, while also learning how to map out your story so you can take back your power over your thoughts.
You can also grab a copy of the Awaking to Your Story –Navigating the River of Life Handbook. You can never go wrong knowing where you are on the river of life and having to tools to help you through any turbulent situation. You can use the exercises inside to help you stay focused on your re-patterning process.
