I want to talk with you today about this idea that You Are Seen.
The divine source energy of love within can’t help by see you, validate your existence and share in your worthiness. Use whatever langue feels good to you, Source, God, Holy Spirit, Divinity, Soul, or Love. When you are in alignment with this source within you, you find a vantage point of consciousness. You find yourself settling into a place of knowing and peace in your story. Your point of reference is that of a creator. You are the author of your story, the builder of your experiences, and the main character living it all into reality.
As you create, moment-by-moment and thought-by-thought your point of reference is powerful. Just imagine it, your point of reference aligned with the divine energy within you. You are so seen, valued, and worthy that you get write your life into any kind thrilling and wonderful experience. As the author and main character you get to choose how you experience the world around you. Your worth, value and ability to be seen has nothing to do with anyone else. It is fundamental to you, divinely woven right into the fabric of your being.
But what if that point of reference is off? What if you are focused so much on other people that you loose sight of your truth? With every thought, you are choosing your point of reference. If you feel unseen, un-valuable, or unworthy in your life you have miss place your point of reference. You have started to look at your story from someone else’s perspective, from the sidelines of your own life, or from outside of your truth. When someone else is your point of reference and they aren’t seeing you in a way that feels good to you, those negative feeling fog up your truth.
It’s ok if you find yourself on the sideline of your story, unseen questioning your value… There is power and opportunity in every moment you are creating. But I don’t want you to get stuck believing these thought running through your head, I would rather you use them to help you realign with your truth.
Here are a few typical thoughts that you might find sneaking in if you are sitting on the sidelines of your own story:
- I feel invisible.
- It feels like I am always being ignored.
- It’s like people look straight through me and don’t even care.
- I feel like a ghost in other people’s lives.
- Why am I even here, if no one cares?
None of these thoughts feel good when you think them. It will never feel good to resist or push against your truth.
It’s important to understand that thoughts like these are separate from who you are.
You may think them, and they may feel very real to you in the moment, but they don’t actually define you and they are not essential to who you are. Thoughts like these try to limit your truth and make you feel smaller and less then how you were designed to feel and be in your life. It is for this reason I like to call them out for what they are; limiting beliefs.
Now beliefs are a repetitive pattern of thinking that creates focus and momentum that leads you forward to wherever it is you find yourself in life. That’s right you are creating your life one thought at a time.
There are beliefs aligned with your truth that feel supportive and fortifying as you think them. When you focus on them you find ease and enthusiastic about your life because they hold the same positive energy as your divine truth.
There are also beliefs like the ones we just mentioned that put limits on your truth and feel negative as you think them. They can send you into an emotional tailspin as they pull your focus to things you have no ability to change.
There are many ways to pick up a limiting belief. People who are limited in their own beliefs may have handed them down to you. They try to convince you of what your reality should be according to their limitation, and often in our own uncertainty we take it really believe it to be true.
It can also happen when a situation comes into your life with a lot of negative energy behind it. Or when you find yourself in a negative repetitive experience a limiting belief can easily be adopted.
No matter how you pick up the limiting beliefs they always contradict your essential truth, and they never feel good as you think them.
So what if you are tired of thinking negative thoughts and experiencing the situations that follows those thoughts? It is totally win your power to shift your thought and creating more positive experiences. That’s the great thing about beliefs; because they are simply thoughts that you think over and over again, you absolutely you have the power to change them.
I like to call this process re-patterning. For me activating a process that I can move through gives me my power back. There are endless ways of going about pre-patterning, but the important thing to remember is it happens one thought at a time.
Your first job is notice the negative thought that is causing you discomfort. They are the indicators that you are out of alignment with your truth. Call it out so that it can no longer run on repeat in the background of your thinking.
As you bring your conscious awareness to the thought and you can see that it is not aligned with your truth, your next job is to stop believe what it’s telling you. That’s right you don’t have to believe the negative thoughts in your heads and most certainly don’t have to take directions from them. When you do this it slows down the momentum, energy, and emotion that it has been carrying with it. You were never meant to believe it anyway.
Once you have the limiting belief isolated and you can see it for what it is, then you start to make room for a new idea to emerge. This is where you redirect your thought and feel your way back to your truth.
Let’s say you have a thought that tells you that you are invisible and don’t matter. What if you take the limitation off that belief? What would you have then? You might find a thought that says something like I am seen and I matter.
I know it can feel like a big jump from one to the other. Just start to get curious about your thoughts. Play them and remember you can reach for any kind of thought you want. As you get curious you might find a thought like, The divine source energy of love within can’t help by see me, validate my existence and share in my worthiness. A thought like that may feel truer.
That might leads to a thought like, my point of reference is that of a creator, and I’m the author of my story, the builder of your experiences, and the main character living it all into reality. A next logical thought might be, as the author of my story, I see, am curious about, and appreciate all the parts that make me the unique person that I am.
Think about what that would feel like. Just keep nudging your focus towards the truth. Calling each thought out as you go, are you in aligned with my truth or are you limiting me?
This is why it’s so valuable not to react, repress, or rebel from the limiting beliefs, but rather use them. When you stop taking direction from them and get curious instead, you allow them to help you create language for your truth. From this place you will find yourself having a very different kind of experience.
So let’s use some of the limiting beliefs we called out before to help us find some new patterns of thinking.
- The divine source energy of love within can’t help by see me, validate my existence and share in my worthiness.
- My point of reference is that of a creator, and I’m the author of my story, the builder of your experiences, and the main character living it all into reality.
- I am seen, valued, and worthy, just as I am.
- As the author of my story, I see, am curious about, and appreciate all the parts that make me the unique person that I am.
- I love and appreciate this life and story that I get to live and write one thought at a time.
Thoughts like these are more aligned with your truth, and there is a beautiful sense of freedom that comes with your truth. So get curious about your thoughts and feeling. Take a second or third look to make sure they are the ones you really want to be thinking and feeling. And remember it all changes one thought at time!
I want to focus on some things that will help you as you re-pattern your thoughts.
Intention setting has two very powerful jobs in your life. One job is to consciously claim what it is you want. The second job is to act as a check-in guard to your point of reference. That way when something coming into your life you can see if it is in alignment with your intention. If it is, wonderful, and if it is not you can kick that sucker to the curb.
I am going to offer you one but feel free to have fun and come up with one of your own. I would start your day with it, and then return to it as many times as you need to. Put it somewhere in your bathroom so you see it first thing in the morning. Or put it on your nightstand, in your car or by your coffee pot.
Here is one for you to try out.
“My intention is to watch my thoughts with compassion and to reach for thoughts throughout my day the feel good to me. My intention is to feel good, and I will use my thought to help me get there.”
Another thing that really helps as you re-pattern your thoughts is giving yourself permission.
Permission is a huge thing that often gets overlooked. Self-permission can feel like opening a door that was once closed to you because it eases up on the resistance. It helps you claim the power to do or not do what your heart really wants.
So we are going to put some conscious awareness to self-permission because you are 100% worth it! Like the intention I will start you off, but you can really run free with this and create endless space for yourself.
“I give myself permission to own my point of reference as the author and main character of my story, a creator and builder of my experiences. I give myself permission to feel my worthiness and my value as the unique being that I am”
It feels pretty good right?
Remember Re-patterning is all about changing your focus to support the new patterns of thinking that are aligned with your truth. It all happens one thought at a time. So watch those thoughts as they come in and choose the ones that feel better. These micro adjustments give you back your power.
An additional trick that I love to help build up those new patterns of thinking, is to flood your mind with outside sources that are similar to your new thoughts. An idle mind will always tend to go back to what it knows best. So keep it moving down those new trains of thought with things like these:
- Listen to podcasts of people who are focused where you want to go while you are driving, running errands, exercising, or while you are doing things around the house.
- Watch videos of people who inspire you to deepen into those new patterns of thinking or are living them for you to see play out, while you are getting ready or are cooking.
- Watch a movie that reinforces your new pattern of thinking and can help you see the positive truths play out before you.
- Write those truths out as many times as you can and then go back and reread them often! When you write things down it helps your brain prioritize what you want it to focus and act on. Reading activates the mind in a similar way but sets your imagination into action at the same time. So prioritize and set your imagination into action on those truths!
- Tell an inner circle friend that you trust what you are working to re-pattern so that you have someone to help you get excited and they can celebrate with you as all the new experiences that match your newly activated truth come into your life.
Here are some videos of previous episodes from Awaking to Your Story TV that might help. There will also be a Re-align and Re-pattern video that will go hand in hand with this episode. It will be Episode 14 of Season 5.
If you enjoy a more hands-on approach you can always grab other Awaking to Your Story Tools:
- Awaking to Your Story, The Book
- Awakening to Your Story Starter Kit – 3 Tools For Returning To Your Power
- Awaking to Your Story –Navigating the River of Life Handbook
Remember you are seen, worthy and valuable, just as you are.
Until next time, know I am holding a place of love for you where your value and worth are undeniable.
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