I want to talk with you today about this idea that You Belong.
Doesn’t it feel good too hear those words, you belong. It feels so good because it is your truth, like a breath of fresh air or a sign of relief. As you hear those words, it feels as if you are remembering something from deep within. And you are because the truth that we are talking about is the divine essential truth that was woven into your humanity by your divinity and is an extension of the divine source energy of love.
You are the only you this world will ever know. Your belonging is so deeply woven through you. As your divinity set your humanity into motion and you are an extension of source energy. Now you can put any kind of belief system or language around it that feels good to you, but it all boils down to you being part of something so much bigger then you. Your seat at the table of humanity was designed for you and you only. You belong here, in this moment in time to create in the unique way that only you can.
Sometimes life experiences can have you focused in contrast to the truth that says I you belong.
And that’s ok… There is power and opportunity in every aspect of your story. But I don’t want you to get stuck believing these thoughts but rather using them to help you realign with your truth.
Here are a few typical thoughts that you might find sneaking in if you have been feeling left out and lonely in your life:
- I feel left out.
- I feel like I don’t belong.
- I am always on the outside looking in at others having fun.
- I feel alone.
- I am always being excluded from the group.
None of these thoughts feel good when you think them. It will never feel good to resist or push against your truth.
It’s important to understand that thoughts like these are separate from who you are.
You may think them, and they may feel very real to you in the moment, but they don’t actually define you and they are not essential to who you are. Thoughts like these try to limit your truth and make you feel smaller and less then how you were designed to feel and be in your life. It is for this reason I like to call them out as limiting beliefs.
Beliefs are a repetitive pattern of thinking that creates focus and momentum that leads you forward to wherever it is you find yourself in life.
There are beliefs aligned with your truth that feel supportive and fortifying as you think them. When you focus on them they get you feeling all jazzed up about your life and it feels as if they plug you right into that source energy.
And there are beliefs like the ones we just mentioned that put limits on your truth and feel negative as you think them. They can send you into an emotional tailspin as they unplug your focus from that inner source energy of life.
There are many ways to pick up a limiting belief. People who are limited in their own beliefs may have handed them down to you. They try to convince you of what your reality should be according to their limitation, and often in our own uncertainty we take it really believe it to be true.
It can also happen when a situation comes into your life with a lot of negative energy behind it. Or when you find yourself in a negative repetitive experience a limiting belief can easily be adopted.
No matter how you pick up the limiting beliefs they always contradict your essential truth, and they never feel good as you think them.
So what if you are tired of thinking thoughts that feel bad and you want to think thoughts that feel better? It is totally win your power. That’s the great thing about beliefs; because they are simply thoughts that you think over and over again, and you absolutely you have the power to change them.
I like to call this process re-patterning. For me activating a process that I can move through gives me my power back. There are endless ways of going about it, but the important thing to remember is it happens one thought at a time.
Your first job is notice the negative thought that is causing you discomfort. They are the indicators that you are out of alignment with your truth. Call it out so that it can no longer run on repeat in the background of your thinking.
As you bring your conscious awareness to the thought and you can see that it is not aligned with your truth, your next job is to stop believe what it’s telling you. When you do this it slows down the momentum, energy, and emotion that it has been carrying with it. You were never meant to believe it but use it to feel your way back to your truth.
Once you have the limiting belief isolated and you can see it for what it is, then you start to make room for a new idea to emerge. This is where you redirect your thought and feel your way back to your truth.
Let’s say you have a thought that tells you that are left out and don’t feel like you belong. What if you take the limitation off that belief? Just get curios for a moment and see if you can find a new thought. You might find a thought that says something like I’m included and feel like I belong.
As you stay curious about this feeling and idea of belonging, your point of reference might shift and you may find a thought like, when my point of reference is focused on my heart and story, everything falls into place for me
That thought might remind you of a thought like, I am the author and main character of my story. That may remind you that you can feel very connected to the divinity, magic, and miracle of my life when you focus in on your heart and story
Curiously feel your way back into that inner truth and power of creating and writing your own story. Feel your way into the miracle that is your life one thought at a time.
Put your mind and energy there as often as possible.
When you activate thought like these, it helps you create a deeper language for your desire and your truth. It helps you keep your focus on where you want to be and not on the places and limiting beliefs that had been holding your attention.
This is why it’s so valuable not to react, repress, or rebel from the limiting beliefs, but rather use them. When you stop taking direction from them and get curious instead, you allow them to help you create language for your truth. From this place you will find yourself having a very different kind of experience.
So let’s use some of the limiting beliefs we called out before to help us find some new patterns of thinking.
- I am the author and main character of my story.
- I absolutely belong.
- When my point of reference is focused on my heart and story, everything falls into place for me.
- When I focus in on my heart and story I feel connected to the divinity, magic, and miracle of my life.
- Inclusion, connection and being part of something bigger than myself is part of who I am.
Thoughts like these are more aligned with your truth, and there is a beautiful sense of freedom that comes with your truth. So get curious about your thoughts and feeling. Take a second or third look to make sure they are the ones you really want to be thinking and feeling. And remember it all changes one thought at time!
I want to focus on some things that will help you as you re-pattern your thoughts.
Intention setting has two very powerful jobs in your life. One job is to consciously claim what it is you want. The second job is to act as a check-in guard to your point of reference. That way when something coming into your life you can see if it is in alignment with your intention. If it is, wonderful, and if it is not you can kick that sucker to the curb.
I am going to offer you one but feel free to have fun and come up with one of your own. I would start your day with it, and then return to it as many times as you need to. Put it somewhere in your bathroom so you see it first thing in the morning. Or put it on your nightstand, in your car or by your coffee pot.
Here is one for you to try out.
“My intention is to watch my thoughts with compassion and to reach for thoughts throughout my day the feel good to me. My intention is to feel good, and I will use my thought to help me get there.”
Another thing that really helps as you re-pattern your thoughts is giving yourself permission.
Permission is a huge thing that often gets overlooked. Self-permission can feel like opening a door that was once closed to you because it eases up on the resistance. It helps you claim the power to do or not do what your heart really wants.
So we are going to put some conscious awareness to self-permission because you are 100% worth it! Like the intention I will start you off, but you can really run free with this and create endless space for yourself.
“I give myself permission to celebrate my place at the table of humanity, and connect to the love and worthiness within me.”
It feels pretty good right?
Remember Re-patterning is all about changing your focus to support the new patterns of thinking that are aligned with your truth. It all happens one thought at a time. So watch those thoughts as they come in and choose the ones that feel better. These micro adjustments give you back your power.
An additional trick that I love to help build up those new patterns of thinking, is to flood your mind with outside sources that are similar to your new thoughts. An idle mind will always tend to go back to what it knows best. So keep it moving down those new trains of thought with things like these:
- Listen to podcasts of people who are focused where you want to go while you are driving, running errands, exercising, or while you are doing things around the house.
- Watch videos of people who inspire you to deepen into those new patterns of thinking or are living them for you to see play out, while you are getting ready or are cooking.
- Watch a movie that reinforces your new pattern of thinking and can help you see the positive truths play out before you.
- Write those truths out as many times as you can and then go back and reread them often! When you write things down it helps your brain prioritize what you want it to focus and act on. Reading activates the mind in a similar way but sets your imagination into action at the same time. So prioritize and set your imagination into action on those truths!
- Tell an inner circle friend that you trust what you are working to re-pattern so that you have someone to help you get excited and they can celebrate with you as all the new experiences that match your newly activated truth come into your life.
Here are some videos of previous episodes from Awaking to Your Story TV that might help. There will also be a Re-align and Re-pattern video that will go hand in hand with this episode. It will be Episode 4 of Season 5.
If you enjoy a more hands-on approach you can always grab other Awaking to Your Story Tools:
- Awaking to Your Story, The Book
- Awakening to Your Story Starter Kit – 3 Tools For Returning To Your Power
- Awaking to Your Story –Navigating the River of Life Handbook
Remember you belong, you belong so very deeply, and only you can sit at your place at the table of humanity.
Until next time know I am holding a place of love for you where your truth of belonging is undeniable.
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