I want to talk with you today about this idea that You Can Have What You Want.
Wouldn’t that feel so good? Well here is the thing, you are a creator designed to set into motion your deepest desires. That is what you came here to do, create life moment-by-moment and thought-by-thought. If you can want it, then you can co-create into reality. That’s right you are a creator by nature, the author and main character of my story, and you can build anything into my reality one thought and one feeling at a time
Doesn’t it feel good too hear those words, you can have what you want. You can build it into reality and you don’t even have to have all the details figured out. You simply have to ask for it, then feel your way into it, as it if is reality now. Can you imagine if you could allow yourself to really feel what you want now, in this moment?
This having is for big things, small things and everything in-between.
I don’t usually tell stories but I have a really good one about this. One of my favorite cellular memories of this having what I want is when I lost a diamond in one of my favorite rings.
I looked down at my hand and my heart sank. I knew it was there the night before because I had remembered seeing it. I wanted to find that diamond so badly. For a moment I thought about how impossible it would be to find it. I could be anywhere, in a rug, in a number of rooms, down the sink…. But I stopped myself cold mind thought. I know that I write my story one thought and feeling at a time, and I didn’t want to write that story or feel that pit in my stomach. SO I wrote and felt my way into a different story. I thought about how it would feel to just look down and find the tiny stone flashing in the light. I kept saying to myself, Oh, there it is, of course. And I thought it would feel like my soul was being tickled and so astatic to find it. In my mind’s eye I could see it sparkling up from it’s hiding spot.
So as I got out the flashlight and looked all over the house on my hands and knees I just kept saying it out loud and letting my heart feel excited. When I didn’t see it, I descried to ease up on the looking for it. I thought about it finding me and how that would feel and the same words kept showing up, Oh, there you are, of course. Andy time I got a hint of a feeling in my stomach and simply said that’s not our story let your heart soar instead. Then I gave myself permission to feel as if I had it.
As I started to work I just let myself feel tickled. There was no one else around to talk me into anything but what I was feeling. No one else knew it was missing, so I could feel about it any way that I wanted to.
I watched my thoughts and feelings and just kept allowing myself to feel the thrill of finding it. I got up from my desk to get a drink in the kitchen and as I was walking back something caught my eye. I bent down and put my finger on a small sparkle on the ground and as I lifted it up, there it was. It found me and I was thrilled. Every through I had and feeling was as real in that moment as in all the moments before it.
This is your creation process on big things and small things. Want and ask for something. Then think and feel your way into it one thought and feeling at a time. Then you have to ease up on it and make room to receive it. Don’t get bogged down in the details, just daydream about how you want to feel.
In this creative process there is always time between the asking and it becoming fully realized. In this time between we can find ourselves thinking in opposition to the truth that says I can have what I want, I am a creator. So we have energy moving towards the desire and then we have thoughts in contradiction to the desire we create energy pulling in the opposite direction.
If I had allowed myself to think about not finding the diamond, that thought and feeling that would follow, would have been pulling energy against what I wanted. This is where we often find ourselves, being pulled in two directions. The direction of what we want and the direction of how we feel right now not having it.
And that’s ok… There is power and opportunity in every aspect of your story. But I don’t want you to get stuck believing these thoughts but rather using them to help you realign with your truth.
Here are a few typical thoughts that you might find sneaking in if you feel like you being separated from what you really want:
- I can’t have what I want.
- The things I want are unattainable for me.
- It feels too out of reach for me.
- What I want isn’t meant for me.
- It feels off limits to me.
None of these thoughts feel good when you think them. It will never feel good to resist or push against your truth.
It’s important to understand that thoughts like these are separate from who you are.
You may think them, and they may feel very real to you in the moment, but they don’t actually define you and they are not essential to who you are. Thoughts like these try to limit your truth and make you feel smaller and less then how you were designed to feel and be in your life. It is for this reason I like to call them out as limiting beliefs.
Beliefs are a repetitive pattern of thinking that creates focus and momentum that leads you forward to wherever it is you find yourself in life.
There are beliefs aligned with your truth that feel supportive and fortifying as you think them. When you focus on them they get you feeling all jazzed up about your life and it feels as if they plug you right into that source energy.
And there are beliefs like the ones we just mentioned that put limits on your truth and feel negative as you think them. They can send you into an emotional tailspin as they unplug your focus from that inner source energy of life.
There are many ways to pick up a limiting belief. People who are limited in their own beliefs may have handed them down to you. They try to convince you of what your reality should be according to their limitation, and often in our own uncertainty we take it really believe it to be true.
It can also happen when a situation comes into your life with a lot of negative energy behind it. Or when you find yourself in a negative repetitive experience a limiting belief can easily be adopted.
No matter how you pick up the limiting beliefs they always contradict your essential truth, and they never feel good as you think them.
So what if you are tired of thinking thoughts that feel bad and you want to think thoughts that feel better? It is totally win your power. That’s the great thing about beliefs; because they are simply thoughts that you think over and over again, and you absolutely you have the power to change them.
I like to call this process re-patterning. For me activating a process that I can move through gives me my power back. There are endless ways of going about it, but the important thing to remember is it happens one thought at a time.
Your first job is notice the negative thought that is causing you discomfort. They are the indicators that you are out of alignment with your truth. Call it out so that it can no longer run on repeat in the background of your thinking.
As you bring your conscious awareness to the thought and you can see that it is not aligned with your truth, your next job is to stop believe what it’s telling you. When you do this it slows down the momentum, energy, and emotion that it has been carrying with it. You were never meant to believe it but use it to feel your way back to your truth.
Once you have the limiting belief isolated and you can see it for what it is, then you start to make room for a new idea to emerge. This is where you redirect your thought and feel your way back to your truth.
Let’s say you have a thought that tells you that you can’t have it. What if you take the limitation off that belief? What would you have then? You might find a thought that says something like I can have what I want.
Think back on my story if that help you get curious. Start to think about what that would feel like. That may help you reach for a thought like, I am a creator by nature, the author and main character of my story, and I can build anything into my reality one thought and one feeling at a time. That thought really gift you permission to feel what you want.
Keep reminding yourself; I have the power to focus on the feelings of having anything that I desire, now in this moment, long before it shows up. What would it feel like to have what I want? Then picture yourself there and really feel the feelings. Let yourself play with it as much as you can, do it with ease. Remember you don’t have to figure out how it is going to come to you. Just keep reaching for thoughts like; nothing is off limits to me.
Put your mind and energy there as often as possible.
When you activate thought like these, it helps you create a deeper language for your desire and your truth. It helps you keep your focus on where you want to be and not on the places and limiting beliefs that had been holding your attention.
This is why it’s so valuable not to react, repress, or rebel from the limiting beliefs, but rather use them. When you stop taking direction from them and get curious instead, you allow them to help you create language for your truth. From this place you will find yourself having a very different kind of experience.
So let’s use some of the limiting beliefs we called out before to help us find some new patterns of thinking.
- I can absolutely have what I want.
- If it’s in my heart and on my mind it’s perfectly designed for me.
- I am a creator by nature, the author and main character of my story, and I can build anything into my reality one thought and one feeling at a time.
- I have the power to focus on the feelings of having anything that I want, now in this moment, long before it shows up.
- Nothing is off limits to me.
Thoughts like these are more aligned with your truth, and there is a beautiful sense of freedom that comes with your truth. So get curious about your thoughts and feeling. Take a second or third look to make sure they are the ones you really want to be thinking and feeling. And remember it all changes one thought at time!
I want to focus on some things that will help you as you re-pattern your thoughts.
Intention setting has two very powerful jobs in your life. One job is to consciously claim what it is you want. The second job is to act as a check-in guard to your point of reference. That way when something coming into your life you can see if it is in alignment with your intention. If it is, wonderful, and if it is not you can kick that sucker to the curb.
I am going to offer you one but feel free to have fun and come up with one of your own. I would start your day with it, and then return to it as many times as you need to. Put it somewhere in your bathroom so you see it first thing in the morning. Or put it on your nightstand, in your car or by your coffee pot.
Here is one for you to try out.
“My intention is to watch my thoughts with compassion and to reach for thoughts throughout my day the feel good to me. My intention is to feel good, and I will use my thought to help me get there.”
Another thing that really helps as you re-pattern your thoughts is giving yourself permission.
Permission is a huge thing that often gets overlooked. Self-permission can feel like opening a door that was once closed to you because it eases up on the resistance. It helps you claim the power to do or not do what your heart really wants.
So we are going to put some conscious awareness to self-permission because you are 100% worth it! Like the intention I will start you off, but you can really run free with this and create endless space for yourself.
“I give myself permission to make room in my mind, heart, and life for my desires to easily show up. One thought and one moment at a time give myself permission to say I can have it, I will have it, and it is already on its way to me.”
It feels pretty good right?
Remember Re-patterning is all about changing your focus to support the new patterns of thinking that are aligned with your truth. It all happens one thought at a time. So watch those thoughts as they come in and choose the ones that feel better. These micro adjustments give you back your power.
An additional trick that I love to help build up those new patterns of thinking, is to flood your mind with outside sources that are similar to your new thoughts. An idle mind will always tend to go back to what it knows best. So keep it moving down those new trains of thought with things like these:
- Listen to podcasts of people who are focused where you want to go while you are driving, running errands, exercising, or while you are doing things around the house.
- Watch videos of people who inspire you to deepen into those new patterns of thinking or are living them for you to see play out, while you are getting ready or are cooking.
- Watch a movie that reinforces your new pattern of thinking and can help you see the positive truths play out before you.
- Write those truths out as many times as you can and then go back and reread them often! When you write things down it helps your brain prioritize what you want it to focus and act on. Reading activates the mind in a similar way but sets your imagination into action at the same time. So prioritize and set your imagination into action on those truths!
- Tell an inner circle friend that you trust what you are working to re-pattern so that you have someone to help you get excited and they can celebrate with you as all the new experiences that match your newly activated truth come into your life.
Here are some videos of previous episodes from Awaking to Your Story TV that might help. There will also be a Re-align and Re-pattern video that will go hand in hand with this episode. It will be Episode 2 of Season 5.
If you enjoy a more hands-on approach you can always grab other Awaking to Your Story Tools:
- Awaking to Your Story, The Book
- Awakening to Your Story Starter Kit – 3 Tools For Returning To Your Power
- Awaking to Your Story –Navigating the River of Life Handbook
Remember you can have what you want in your life, you brilliant and miraculous creator.
Until next time know I am holding a place of love for you, where your power to create is undeniable.
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